I grew up in a very enlightened family. I remember asking my father as he tucked me in one night, "Daddy, why do people treat black people worse than they treat Jews?" His answer to me, "People can look at you and know you are black. When you're Jewish, they SUSPECT, but they're not sure." It’s part of our brain development to notice differences and categorize – including differences in people. Young people – even as young as 18 months - DO notice race. They notice our reactions to race. And they wonder about skin color more than we might guess. This is something we should address with our children. Research is showing that pretending that we don't notice does NOT help them grow up to be color-blind. Talking to them explicitly about race does. Read more here.